Talking to myself.
Wow, it's been sooo long since I've updated this thing. Now I forget all the things I wanted to say.
Oh ya. Relationships are driving me crazy right now. Not a relationship, but relationships and everyone talking about them.
Ok, so background: In our Leaders Discipleship groups we are doing a study called "Fantasy". It's all about love, relationships and sex. Unfortunately for me, I am not really in a mood to talk about stereotypes. I'm also getting tired of hearing the same old, "Girls don't feel complete without a guy, it's a struggle we all share" thing. Because a funny thing happens when you hear that over and over again; you start to 1) Become annoyed with it and wish girls would just shut up and stop whining, and 2) Start to believe it. Now, I have never EVER thought that I am not complete if I don't have a boyfriend, yet I'm finding myself feeling really insecure lately and I'm not sure why. The only conclusion I can come to is that in everyone obsessing about relationships and putting emphasis on them (even if it's only to say that they aren't important), I'm picking up on that anxiety vibe and subconsciously believing some of it. Boo on my subconscious.
Or maybe I'm just hungry.
posted by The White Blackbird @ 4:42 PM
5 Comments:
Hey Zoe
My only tip is to just listen but don't take it to heart. Its crazy how people have a "love plan/clock" that they have to meet. Unfortunately, people (girls) put time limits on when certain things should happen in life but we tend to forget that it is up to God not on us in many ways of meeting our future mate. I can say from my experience is that I am content on being single. I have been single for the last 27 and a half years and never did it cross my mind to be insecure about it. It is all in God's timing. Since I have never been in a relationship, I don't feel that need to be in one. Of course I like guys but it doesn't mean I have to jump on every impluse because everyone is in a relaitonship. I have had a lot of ministries I was apart of and I wouldn't change any of it to be in a relationship
I feel that relationships are okay but the true relationship in my mind is between you and God and the rest will fall in to place. Another important relationship aside from God is with yourself, being content of your life and know that you can be independent. I've seen many friends of mine go from relationship to the next but never taking some time for themselves to be independent.
But this is a topic I vent on my blog too. I feel that we have to be complete with God first but I guess I am kind of old fashion that way. If relationship with God is good then the rest will be good as well.
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Hey Zoë,
If you so choose, you may ignore my previous comment of "a". So profound...
Our men's leadership study is basically doing the guy version of your study. We haven't been talking too much specifically about relationships (yet, we're slow :\). We've been talking more about always putting our trust in God to live lives that are pleasing to Him. Specifically in those areas of love, sex and relationships.
I totally agree with Laura though, the most important relationship in our life is with God. Seek him with all your heart. I'm reminded of a couple verses in Psalm 37.
In verse 3-4 it reads;
"Trust in the Lord, and do good; Dwell the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart."
In verse 8 it says;
"Do not fret - it only causes harm."
God is our greatest comforter and encourager. It is in Him that we find our shelter and rest. Don't let those Anxiety vibes of other people get to you.
Ps. Also, you can be happy because it's not Calvinism!
All I can say is, Never go shopping when you are hungry. Cause then you'll pick out anything and everything that looks good. :p
hungry, hungry is good :) I find a good meal of commons sense is a good cure for that problem. For me at least.
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